Part Two: I Know I'm Talented, But Why Am I Not Successful?

Hey guys! Thanks for sticking with me on this little series.


You see, the whole inspiration behind this blog series is because of a conversation I had with my husband. I was asking the question, "Why do I not feel successful?" He went on to tell me how much potential I have, how talented I am, and a bunch of other nice things. He's clearly my biggest fan ;). The problem I was wrestling with is that I know I have potential. I know I have talent. These are things I've worked really hard on. BUT, I also know that I'm not great at being patient. I get restless easily, and because I know I'm capable of juggling several things, I tend to get distracted. This brings me to the second part of this series. Persistence, Patience, and Consistency. All three of these disciplines have worked together toward success in my life.  
Call it PCP or PPC or however you want to say it, but what I've found is that when I am patient with the process, persistent when things get hard, and consistent over the long haul that is when I've experienced the most success in whatever I'm doing. Some people say "just do one thing and do it well", and while that sounds great, and for some people it is great, but for me I LIKE doing different things. I LIKE using a lot of different skills, and I LIKE multitasking. The key though for me is to remind myself in that whatever it is I'm doing I have to be patient, persistent, and consistent over the long haul in order to reach my fullest potential and to reach my definition of success. Does that make sense? 
So back to the question, "I know I'm talented, but why am I not successful?"
What I've learned are two things. First, clearly define YOUR definition of success. Not anyone else's. Then set goals to achieve that.  Second, stick to it with patience, persistence, and consistency. Pursue that thing even when it's hard and you want to throw in the towel or when you get bored and need to move on to the next thing. Trust me, I've been there and done that. 
Lastly, I know everyone is so different in their thoughts, personalities, jobs, and life. What works for me might not work for someone else. But I think this will at least start the conversation. Being honest with myself about my strengths and weaknesses has been the biggest key for growth in my career and family life. So with all of that said, if you're struggling with the idea of success in your life, maybe read part one and then part two of this series and let it simmer a little bit. I have a feeling there might be a breakthrough for you in one way or another. Cheers! 

Part One : I Know I'm Talented, But Why Am I Not Successful?

"I know I'm talented, but why am I not successful?"

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This is a statement I've run into time and time again. I've asked myself this, and I know other people have asked themselves this. People tell me I'm talented, and I know I'm talented. I know I am capable of doing a lot of different things. I'm not saying this in an arrogant way, it's just that I've worked tirelessly on my craft and skills to the point where I do feel good at them. And honestly, creative things and ideas have always come naturally for me. I know this isn't the case with everyone. So if I'm talented, gifted, or whatever you want to call it, I often found myself asking "why am I still struggling to be successful?!"

But then something shifted. I asked myself, What is success to me? To other people? I realized success means different things to different people, and I got so caught up in the comparison game that someone else's success story became my measure for success. When in fact, working 12-14 hour days, never seeing my family, hustling day and night for appearance and accolades and money wasn't my idea of success AT ALL. I've lived that life, and I don't want that life. So I started asking myself what success looked like. For me it means making enough money to live comfortably, but not lavishly. It means being done with work by 5:30pm so I can spend the evenings making a healthy dinner (and not a store bought pizza). It means having the flexibility to meet a friend for coffee on a Thursday morning. It means having a weekend free to play with my family and friends. It means doing great work that matters and doing work with clients that I am passionate about. It means working hard when I'm at work, and playing hard when I'm not. What does success look like for you? 

If we're always playing the comparison game, never defining our idea of success, I think we'll always be left also playing the "never enough" game. Never enough money, enough time, enough purpose, enough toys. The list is endless. And that road is a deep dark hole that I don't want to go down. 

So to recap the first part of this series, start by defining what success means to YOU. Not anyone else. One tip: get off of social media for a few days and really think about what success looks like in your life. Not just the amount of money you want to make, but what you want your day-to-day life to look like. By defining our individual ideas of success we can have a measurement, a goal, to reach for. And all of a sudden, it becomes enough.